If you are a Seinfeld fanatic like me, just reading those four words above probably elicited an immediate chuckle of recognition. And if you’re not? Just google it.

At any rate, one of the hardest things for some women to reckon with is that they’ve never had an orgasm, or they often assume that they are the only ones who have not had one during intercourse. In reality, less than half of women are able to have an orgasm during intercourse. One of the main reasons is simply due to the huge difference in physiology between male and female physiology.

The most sensitive region on a man’s body is the head of the penis, so naturally, it is very easy for a man to be able to achieve an orgasm during sex. For a woman, on the other hand, the most sensitive area is her clitoris, which is located above and outside of her vagina. Who came up with that design?

One of the best ways for women to learn how to have an orgasm is to lay comfortably in their bathtub with a bath pillow under their head and let a warm stream of water flow over their clitoris, ideally using a hand-held shower wand. It may take quite a few times in order for you to discover what feels good for you, but usually the warm water alone will allow you to have an orgasm.

Once you have learned what it feels like, a surprisingly easy and sexy trick your partner can do to get you warmed up is to intentionally withhold caressing your vaginal area and clitoris that much while focusing everywhere else, so that you practically have to plead with him to finally let you climax.

After you have experienced what works for you, the next time you are with your partner and he teases you long enough, a fun product to try is a warming lubricant (sometimes referred to as warming jelly or liquid). If used properly, ie. applying just the right amount so that it doesn’t get too hot, it can be incredibly beneficial in helping you to have an orgasm. But if you are trying to conceive, one of the only lubricants I recommend that will not harm sperm is BabyDance Fertility Lubricant. So save the warming lubricant for the phases of your cycle when you are not fertile.

And may your next bath be a beautiful one.